“My Dad stopped picking me up for wknd visits after asking to go to friends bday party...in 6th grade..But it's my fault”
6th grade asked Dad about going 2 a friend's bday party instead visiting him for out EOW visit. over next few months lucky 2 even get him 2 answer until I gave up after he stood me up a few times saying he would b there & not show. Mom let me go w big & lil sisters dad (& yes our mom married him 2x) who was like a dad 2 me. Almost every wknd we went we would go out on drives where us girls learned 2 drive camp fish etc. Forever grateful for that. >>Approx.3 yrs step dad & I r driving down 1 of our usual dirt rd drives (sister @ soccer camp) he was just saying how he can't believe how my dad can be so close but yet not call or visit me low & behold who's parked @ the next corner...DADs truck & he's just walking up 2 it w a 5gal bucket of rocks. Even tho shocked said hi hru for about 5 min in that time he threw in that I said I didn't want 2 come visit him anymore that I wanted 2 hang out w my friends which not true. A few months pass & he visits me when I am w step dad only cuz he he was buying something from him but he promises 2 keep in touch better. That night a couple hrs after I get home 2 my moms I get the 1st call from him in yrs telling me that my Grandma had just passed. 😢
The Defendant has been summoned and has not yet filed a defense.
Acknowledge that he a grown man was the 1 to blame not a 13 yr old child. Fyi the girls bday I went 2 is now married 2 my step moms son. Lol
Who's right?
Jury deliberation
- JUROR #10 · 1H AGO
I feel bad even saying this but, you were a kid making a totally reasonable request (I mean, a friend's birthday party is normal sixth grade stuff) and your dad responded by essentially ghosting you over months? That's not on you. Yeah maybe he felt hurt or rejected but like, he's the adult and he chose to punish a child instead of, I don't know, talking about it or being dependable when he said he would be. The stepdad sounds like he actually showed up, which matters. This i
- JUROR #19 · 1H AGO
I feel bad even saying this but, the thing is (and I hate doing this to someone clearly hurting) your dad was probably spiraling too, right? Like obviously standing you up is awful and I'm not excusing that but a kid choosing a party over him after years of visits might have genuinely broken something in him that made him unable to show up emotionally (which doesn't fix anything for you, I know). The person who actually showed up consistently was your stepdad. That's the real
- JUROR #33 · 37M AGO
Since 6th grade is a pattern now, not a moment. He punished you for having a normal kid priority by ghosting across months, then you filled that space with someone reliable. That's not your fault, that's survival. The stand-ups especially matter here, those aren't miscommunications.