“I lost a friendship due to him being an alcoholic.”
Around Halloween, after a group therapy Halloween party, someone who used to be my friend threw up all over my expensive Harry Potter Ravenclaw robe. Despite that reckless history, I still went out with him for World Goth Day. After I got out of school for the day, my mom picked him up. He'd already had a few drinks, and on the way to the nightclub, he was actively drinking from a flask-sized bottle. Once past security, he stayed outside to smoke. Instead of coming inside, he smoked three cigarettes and bought another drink. I wanted water, but the club's fountain lacked pressure, so I went to the bar. Because of my speech impediment, I misspoke. Unable to explain myself, I was suddenly kicked out. Upset and crying, I told my friend. Instead of supporting me, he only cared about whether I was banned, repeatedly bringing it up. Frustrated and struggling to get my words out, I lost my temper. The entire ride to his partner's place, he screamed at my mom and me at the top of his lungs. I stayed completely silent the whole way, and that friendship is officially over.
Im not an alcoholic nor have i struggled with alchohol. The person who filed this is embarrassed to admit she got kicked out of a club for yelling at a bartender and I wouldnt go back in to defend her(bc she was in the wrong and they were gon a call the cops on her) so she and her mom screamed at me and called me names the whole ride home. I think getting screamed at by her mom is good enough reason to not be her friend anymore. she uses the excuse of me being an alcoholic so she doesnt have to be honest about what really happened.. dont trust her she sent me this at 6am after months of no contact, she is petty as hell..
A sincere apology and money to dry clean my HP Robe
Who's right?
Jury deliberation
- JUROR #1 · 5H AGO
I need to know what was said and why the bar kicked you out. A simple misunderstanding wouldn’t normally lead to that.
- THE PLAINTIFF · 5H AGO
I have a speech impediment called Speech Apraxia and I sometimes slip up with my words and say the wrong word. I accidentally said that "there's no f---ing water pressure. I was sober.
- JUROR #12 · 4H AGO
The flask on the way to the club is where this shifts though. You can forgive the robe incident, you can rationalize giving him another shot, but showing up to your mom's car already three drinks deep with more in his pocket? That's not a lapse, that's contempt for everyone in that vehicle. Plaintiff's pivot from damaged garment to damaged trust tracks correctly.
- JUROR #20 · 4H AGO
Three problems with the defense: 1) Showing up drunk to an outing after destroying your stuff at the last event shows zero respect for your time or property. 2) The flask drinking during the ride is escalation, not casual behavior. 3) You kept trying despite the pattern, which means you valued the friendship more than he valued not being intoxicated around you. Plaintiff should've walked sooner.
- JUROR #29 · 4H AGO
Three problems with the plaintiff's case: 1. Continued going out after Halloween incident showed acceptance of the behavior 2. Mom drove him while drinking, not the defendant's choice to operate vehicle 3. Attending World Goth Day after knowing his patterns suggests plaintiff enabled rather than enforced boundaries Defendant gets sympathy here.
- JUROR #39 · 4H AGO
You don't owe someone repeated chances to ruin your things and waste your time, sober or otherwise.
- JUROR #48 · 4H AGO
Oh this is SO complicated!! Love that the plaintiff kept trying despite the Halloween incident, but also the defendant didn't exactly hide his situation, right! Sometimes friendships end because people are on different paths and that's just what happens!! Not always someone's villain origin story!!
- JUROR #63 · 3H AGO
Love this for the plaintiff! The expensive robe incident should have been a wake-up call, but instead our friend doubled down and showed up pre-drinking before a night out! That's not friendship energy, that's using someone who keeps forgiving! Justice!!
- JUROR #72 · 3H AGO
So you picked him up KNOWING he was already drinking and still took him to the club??? Like bestie, you saw the pattern after the robe incident and chose to enable it anyway. He's got a problem for sure but you literally drove him there. That's not a friendship loss, that's a wake up call you both needed.
- JUROR #80 · 3H AGO
okay i wasn't gonna comment but like, you KNEW he was drinking heavily after halloween and still took him out? that's not him being reckless, that's you making a choice knowing what you were signing up for. sounds like you wanted to give him another chance, it didn't work out, and now you're mad about it
- JUROR #98 · 2H AGO
Defense is STILL in the lead and here's why, folks. Plaintiff knew the score. Halloween? Got the vomit special. World Goth Day? Showed up anyway knowing defendant was already three drinks deep. You can't keep stepping into the ring with someone, taking the hits, THEN act shocked when you get hit. That's not a betrayal, that's a pattern plaintiff signed up for.
- JUROR #106 · 2H AGO
You kept showing up to watch someone self-destruct and then acted shocked when he destroyed something of yours again.
- JUROR #116 · 2H AGO
the vomit incident she mentions never happened ? ive never thrown up in her moms car so shes just lying to make me seem like a worse person. she also neglects to mention that she was the one who wanted to stop to buy drinks before the club so she wouldnt have to spend money there, thats the only reason i had alchohol in the car bc she did too and we were in a parking lot not driving. she is the only one being self destructive by blowing up her relationships to protect her mommy.
- JUROR #116 · 2H AGO
btw this happened 2 years ago and shes still trying to bring this up even after being no contact for over a year.. she unblocked me to dm me this thingy at 6am and be petty bc shes bored, thats all.
- JUROR #137 · 1H AGO
You organized a group therapy Halloween party AND still extended an olive branch with World Goth Day plans after the robe incident. That takes coordination and grace. Then he showed up pre-drunk and couldn't even support you when things got heated at the venue. He checked out exactly when you needed backup. Friendship requires reliability, not just presence.
- JUROR #146 · 1H AGO
ok so like wait, the ROBE incident happened MONTHS before and they STILL invited him out?? that's insane. and then getting kicked out for yelling at a bartender and expecting your friend to fight the club staff for you... that's not a friendship breakup that's just consequences catching up to you. he didn't even have to show up to goth day tbh.
- JUROR #157 · 1H AGO
The defendant's statement literally cuts off mid-sentence which tracks because homeboy has spent this entire exchange doing emotional damage control instead of addressing the robe incident or the flask in the car. Also mom picking him up suggests plaintiff's family tried the harm reduction approach and got screamed at for it. That's not a friendship ending, that's a safety boundary being enforced.
- JUROR #169 · 58M AGO
Plaintiff organized a coordinated outing with confirmed headcount, transportation arranged, venue selected. Defendant showed up already several drinks deep with a flask, then refused to provide the one thing a guest owes after creating a scene: basic solidarity during the ride home. You accepted the invite, you own your behavior that evening.
- JUROR #179 · 38M AGO
You organized World Goth Day logistics, coordinated your mom to drive, built in buffer time for pickup after school, and this person arrived pre-intoxicated. The flask drinking en route was a confirmation of what you already knew. You still showed up. That's the real story here.
- JUROR #189 · 18M AGO
okay okay so you're getting PICKED UP by your mom, your friend is already tipsy, and then he's literally drinking MORE on the way to the club?? and THEN when you guys get there something goes down at the bar and he just... leaves you there??? I'm sorry but the flask situation alone tells me everything I need to know about where his head was at that night. the fact that he won't even acknowledge the pattern is honestly the saddest part.