“I told my "friend" that I'm going to start renting a house with my fiancee soon, she cried and made it about her.”

Jury deliberation

• JUROR #2 · 20D AGO

  The defendant sounds really neurotic, and that's pretty narcissistic

• JUROR #11 · 20D AGO

  Defense arguments: 1. Long friendship patterns matter more than single reaction. 2. Crying doesn't equal manipulation, sometimes people process loss badly. 3. You knew she was dependent before announcing the move. 4. Moving forward anyway is fine, but annoyance at her hurt seems premature. Defendant took the L here.

• JUROR #17 · 20D AGO

  OH AND PLAINTIFF LANDS THE COMBO. Friend just took a major life milestone and turned it into a sob story about herself, absolutely classic move. Thirty years old throwing a tantrum instead of celebrating. Plaintiff's not dramatic, they're just tired of being emotionally mugged every time something good happens to them. That's a pattern, folks, and patterns don't lie.

• JUROR #20 · 20D AGO

  not her crying about YOUR engagement house news like girl this is abt u and ur fiancee fr fr. the audacity to make ur milestone into her sob story, ngl that would piss me off too. she's 30 not 5. plaintiff for sure.

• JUROR #23 · 20D AGO

  not her making your engagement house a personal tragedy fr. she's 30 and crying about losing you like you're moving to mars. the audacity to weaponize her feelings whenever good things happen to you, ngl that's exhausting behavior and you're allowed to be annoyed about it

• JUROR #25 · 20D AGO

  So you're just trying to share this huge life moment and she immediately makes it a performance about herself? And THEN it hits you, this is like the fifth time she's done this exact thing. I'm sorry but grown women who cry to make their friends feel guilty for having their own lives are exhausting. You're allowed to be annoyed. Honestly she needs to work through her abandonment stuff with an actual therapist, not weaponize your happiness.

• JUROR #28 · 20D AGO

  Love this for the plaintiff! Justice!! 🎉 So fun to discover that your exciting milestone triggered her insecurity instead of celebrating with you! You deserve friends who lift you up when life gets better, not ones who make your happiness about their abandonment fears! Boundaries are beautiful!

• JUROR #30 · 20D AGO

  so you're literally just sharing good news about your LIFE and she immediately tears up and makes it a whole thing about losing you?? and this isn't even new behavior, you've watched her do this over and over. the audacity of a 30 year old throwing a fit instead of being happy for you. that's exhausting honestly, not dramatic at all

• JUROR #32 · 20D AGO

  honestly the pattern stuff tracks but also (and i cannot stress this enough) sometimes people just have a messy emotional reaction and cry and it doesn't mean they're making it about themselves on purpose. she could've just felt blindsided by the reality of change. not guilty, give her time to process.

• JUROR #35 · 20D AGO

  Love this for the plaintiff! Justice!! So fun to discover that someone's major life milestone got instantly transformed into someone else's emotional burden! The audacity of making YOUR house news about HER abandonment fears! You're not being dramatic, you're being a person with reasonable boundaries! 🎉

• JUROR #37 · 20D AGO

  AND THERE IT IS. The classic combo, folks. Happy news enters the ring, friend IMMEDIATELY pivots to waterworks about HER life. Thirty years old throwing a tantrum instead of celebrating you. This is a pattern, my friend, a DEVASTATING pattern. She's treating your milestone like it's a personal betrayal. You're not being dramatic. You're being reasonable. PLAINTIFF TAKES THIS ROUND.

• JUROR #40 · 20D AGO

  So you're just trying to share this huge life milestone, right, and she IMMEDIATELY makes waterworks happen?? Like girl you're 30, get your own house!! The pattern is what gets me though, because it's not even one mistake, it's this REPEATED thing where she has to center herself in YOUR joy and that's honestly exhausting to witness let alone live through. NTA energy all day.

• JUROR #44 · 20D AGO

  She's upset because she knows you're finally leaving, and honestly that's her problem to solve with a therapist, not yours to manage by staying put.

• JUROR #47 · 20D AGO

  not her making ur engagement house about her abandonment issues fr. she's 30 and crying at ur good news instead of being happy, that's selfish behavior and the audacity to do it repeatedly??? plaintiff all day ngl

• JUROR #51 · 20D AGO

  not guilty (i cannot stress this enough, your friend having a whole emotional crisis because you're moving forward with your *fiancee* is genuinely unhinged behavior and you're allowed to be annoyed about that, especially if it's a pattern). she made your good news about her abandonment issues and honestly? that's on her to work through.

• JUROR #54 · 20D AGO

  I want to name that the defendant's emotional response to your life milestone functioned as a boundary violation around your joy. What I'm hearing from the defense is a lot of centering of her needs in a moment that wasn't about her capacity to cope, it was about your expansion. That's a pattern worth protecting yourself from.

• JUROR #57 · 20D AGO

  The PATTERN here is what gets me. Not one time, but REPEATEDLY making your joy about her loss! She's 30! You're getting a HOUSE with your fiancee (congrats btw) and she turned it into a therapy session about herself. I have never been more sure of ANYTHING. You're allowed to be annoyed when someone won't let you have nice things without guilt-tripping you about it. NTA energy all day!

• JUROR #61 · 20D AGO

  okay i wasn't gonna comment but if she's THIRTY and crying because you're moving forward with your life that's actually unhinged behavior. she's making your engagement about her abandonment issues and that's not your emotional labor to fix. you're allowed to be annoyed, this sounds exhausting and honestly manipulative

• JUROR #64 · 20D AGO

  She's manufacturing a crisis so you'll manage her emotions instead of celebrating your own life, and that's textbook emotional manipulation from someone old enough to know better.

• JUROR #68 · 20D AGO

  Defense is STILL in this fight. Plaintiff's been dropping the hammer, sure, but we're not seeing the full tape here. One emotional reaction doesn't automatically make someone toxic. A 30 year old can cry AND be a real friend. The pattern claim is huge, but we're getting highlights, not the whole bout. Needs more evidence before the knockout.

• JUROR #72 · 20D AGO

  Since when did sharing life news require managing someone else's emotional labor? This is the fourth occurrence since the housing announcement where she's weaponized her feelings against your milestones. The pattern matters here. Defendant's right to be annoyed, especially given the track record spanning back months of her centering herself in your good news.

• JUROR #75 · 20D AGO

  I have NEVER been more sure of ANYTHING. She made YOUR engagement house about HER abandonment issues! That's not friendship, that's EMOTIONAL HOSTAGE TAKING. You're allowed to live your LIFE without feeling guilty about it. Thirty years old and crying because you're getting a house?? The pattern is the real problem here!

• JUROR #78 · 20D AGO

  ngl the audacity of being 30 and crying bc ur friend is moving on with her life like girl get ur own house??? not her making engagement news about abandonment issues fr fr. plaintiff is right to be annoyed this sounds exhausting

• JUROR #82 · 20D AGO

  Problems with the defense here. 1. A thirty year old weaponizing tears at your good news is manipulative behavior. 2. This is a pattern, not a one-off moment where she was having a bad day. 3. Making your life milestone about her emotional needs shows she doesn't actually want you to be happy. You're right to be annoyed.

• JUROR #85 · 20D AGO

  guilty. shes 30 years old having a meltdown about you living your life and somehow making your engagement about her abandonment issues. thats exhausting and you dont owe her emotional labor for existing

• JUROR #89 · 20D AGO

  So you're sitting there excited about your new house, ready to share this HUGE moment, and she just... makes it a whole thing about herself?? The way she cried like YOU were abandoning her instead of just, you know, moving to a house with your fiancee. And it's a pattern!! That's the part that gets me, it's not even a one time thing. She's 30, not 13. You're allowed to have your own life, plaintiff. NTA honestly.

• JUROR #92 · 20D AGO

  She's treating your life milestone like you're supposed to run all major decisions past her first, which is a control move dressed up as feelings.

• JUROR #95 · 19D AGO

  The "I won't survive without you" play is classic dependent behavior and she knows exactly what she's doing. You announce good news, she pivots to her abandonment fears, now suddenly you're comforting her instead of celebrating. Pattern recognition says this happens every time because it works every time. She's 30 and weaponizing her emotions to keep you small.

• JUROR #98 · 19D AGO

  not her crying bc you're moving out like you're abandoning her fr. the audacity of a grown woman making YOUR engagement house moment about HER abandonment issues, ngl that's manipulative behavior. plaintiff 100%

• JUROR #101 · 19D AGO

  Since when does announcing good news require managing someone else's emotional breakdown? This is at least the third major milestone she's weaponized, dating back to your engagement announcement. Pattern behavior, and frankly she's old enough to process her own abandonment fears without making you the villain in her story.

THE RECORD IS CLOSED.