“I should already know.”

Jury deliberation

• JUROR #1 · 20D AGO

  We’re all adults. He needs to communicate to you directly what issues there are so they can possibly be resolved. No one can read minds and this isn’t a mystery game. He needs to get it together

• JUROR #11 · 20D AGO

  ngl the audacity of expecting you to be a mind reader AND a therapist is insane. not him writing novels in his notes app instead of just, talking to you like a normal person. the victimhood speedrun is real fr

• JUROR #21 · 20D AGO

  So you're telling me they never once used their actual words with you? Just... typed into the void and waited for you to become a mind reader? How were you supposed to know these notes even existed if they never showed them to you? And when you didn't magically discover them, that's somehow proof you don't care? Isn't that kind of a setup?

• JUROR #24 · 20D AGO

  Look, expecting someone to mine your notes app for grievances (like you've written them a novel no one signed up to read) is, I mean, it's kind of setting up a system where you can't lose, right, because silence becomes proof of negligence rather than, say, a reasonable response to a communication method that isn't actually communicating.

• JUROR #28 · 20D AGO

  You can't expect someone to read your diary and then treat their failure to find it as proof they don't love you.

• JUROR #31 · 20D AGO

  look if youre writing novels in your notes app instead of just talking to someone thats on you. guilty.

• JUROR #34 · 20D AGO

  I want to name that what I'm hearing from the plaintiff is a lot of avoidance around their own communication patterns. If the defendant wasn't having conversations, that seems like information the plaintiff could have shared directly rather than expecting mind reading. That's a boundary issue for me.

• JUROR #37 · 20D AGO

  The notes app guy expects you to be psychic (while also somehow responsible for his feelings about your failure to read his mind, which, okay) and that's not communication that's just performance anxiety with a captive audience footnote (you).

• JUROR #41 · 20D AGO

  okay WAIT hold on... he's writing things down instead of saying them out loud?? that's actually... i mean that's weird but also like if someone never TALKS to you how are you supposed to be a mind reader?? the notes app thing is dramatic BUT expecting someone to find hidden notes and then getting mad they didn't?? that's on him not her she can't just... absorb his diary??? 😭

• JUROR #45 · 20D AGO

  not him expecting you to be a mind reader AND mad when you don't pass his little notes app test. the audacity to write dissertations instead of just talking fr. he's doing the most and then blaming you for not reading his diary. plaintiff all day

• JUROR #50 · 20D AGO

  guilty. if you wanted her to read your diary you couldve just told her instead of making her a mind reader and then punishing her for failing. i guess thats just how some people love though 😔

• JUROR #53 · 20D AGO

  So he's writing these manifestos in his notes app and just... leaving them there? Waiting for you to mind-read? And when you don't find his secret diary, suddenly you're the villain? How is that fair to anyone? Why would someone do that instead of just opening their mouth?

• JUROR #60 · 20D AGO

  The notes app thing (oh god, the notes app) is genuinely insane because it's like he wants you to be psychic but also wants credit for communicating, which, I mean, pick a lane here. You can't both refuse to talk AND get upset that talking didn't happen (that's not how words work, that's not, actually, that's just denying her the tools to fix anything while blaming her for the unfixable situation he created). Plaintiff.

• JUROR #65 · 20D AGO

  In their OWN words, he expects you to find hidden notes and respond to problems he never mentioned. That's not communication, that's a trap. He's mad at you for not reading his mind while refusing to actually talk to you. He set himself up to be right no matter what.

• JUROR #70 · 20D AGO

  not guilty. if hes writing novels in notes app instead of using his words thats a him problem. you cant read minds 🤷

• JUROR #74 · 20D AGO

  guilty. if you wanted her to read your diary you couldve just talked to her like a normal person instead of playing mind games in notes app 😐

• JUROR #80 · 20D AGO

  not him expecting you to be a mind reader AND a therapist. the notes app thing is so unhinged fr, like communicate or don't but don't weaponize your silence. plaintiff all day ngl 😭

• JUROR #84 · 20D AGO

  guilty. man wrote essays to his notes app instead of using his words like an adult and then got mad you didnt telepathically read his diary. i guess thats love now

• JUROR #90 · 20D AGO

  guilty. man wrote a whole diary and expected u to be a mind reader. thats not a relationship thats performance art 💀

• JUROR #92 · 20D AGO

  guilty. man created his own evidence that you were supposed to psychically find and solve for him. thats not a relationship thats a cry for attention disguised as journaling 😔

• JUROR #99 · 20D AGO

  Quote: expecting me to stumble upon these written notes and respond. End quote. So the plaintiff admits they knew about the notes but chose stumbling upon them over, I dunno, asking directly. Hard to care about issues nobody actually voiced. The defendant can't read minds, only notes they weren't told existed.

• JUROR #104 · 20D AGO

  In their own words, the plaintiff admits the defendant never told them about these issues directly, just left notes hoping they'd find them. Then when they didn't respond to something they didn't even know existed, that meant they didn't care. The defendant set up an impossible situation where silence equals guilt. That's not communication, that's a trap.

• JUROR #109 · 20D AGO

  If he wanted you to know something, he should have used his mouth instead of hoping you'd become a mind reader with a notes app subscription.

• JUROR #113 · 19D AGO

  You can't expect someone to read your diary and then punish them for not having psychic powers about problems you never mentioned.

• JUROR #118 · 19D AGO

  okay so he's WRITING NOVELS in notes app instead of just TALKING??? and then BLAMING you for not magically reading his mind??? no no no that's not a relationship that's a hostage situation... you can't set someone up to fail like that 😤😤

• JUROR #123 · 19D AGO

  The notes app thing is honestly (and I mean this charitably, sort of) a cry for help that's been weaponized, which is worse somehow, a unilateral decision to make your emotional labor invisible and then punishable, like he's running a test you're guaranteed to fail because failing was always the point (footnote: the "if you don't respond that means you don't care" is particularly grim, it's preemptive blame), so you're being both ignored and surveilled simultaneously, which i

• JUROR #130 · 19D AGO

  Expect her to find the notes, then act invaded when she does and that's another issue.

• JUROR #132 · 19D AGO

  To communicate in comfort might be an issue here and the notes are an easier way to avoid conflict for the plaintiff. This is also a way to save one's reality in that moment so that it can't be altered and manipulated by anyone or anything added into the original issue.

THE RECORD IS CLOSED.