“I just caught friend turned enemy who was in the wrong stalking me on social media through his girlfriends account”

Jury deliberation

• JUROR #4 · 20D AGO

  What evidence do you have to back up your allegations?

• JUROR #7 · 20D AGO

  I feel bad even saying this but like, viewing your public posts (even through someone else's account) isn't really the same as active stalking? I mean I get why it feels violating after he hurt you, and the breakup sounds genuinely awful, but he might just be passively scrolling and not like, orchestrating surveillance (if they're girlfriend-approved views anyway). This is hard because your anger is totally valid but the action itself seems more like checking in than hunting you down.

• JUROR #10 · 20D AGO

  I sided with you because it is a violating feeling and I believe you are being stalked. However, after thinking about my own lived experience it probably is the NEW GF stalking you out of jealousy and making sure you guys aren't speaking and so on... Females are the ones most likely to do this. Unfortunately this is my first mock case on this site and I might have convict6 the wrong person, id need more information to decide if it was him or the new gf. Hopefully I do better in my next case. 😊

• JUROR #53 · 20D AGO

  not him using his gf as a puppet to stalk u fr that's so unhinged. the audacity of grown men i swear, voting plaintiff ngl

• JUROR #54 · 20D AGO

  look if hes checking your stuff through his girlfriend thats weird sure but also maybe just private your accounts instead of treating this like a crime scene investigation. he sounds annoying but youre giving him free real estate in your head

• JUROR #63 · 20D AGO

  Since June when this all started, he's now on his fourth workaround to access your content. The girlfriend account viewing is particularly telling because it shows premeditation, not casual curiosity. This pattern matches his behavior from the earlier incident.

• JUROR #64 · 20D AGO

  Look, he's checking your profile through someone ELSE'S account? That's cowardly and weird but it doesn't make him a stalker, it makes him PATHETIC! He's clearly desperate to see what you're doing instead of moving on like a normal person. You BLOCKED him for a reason, he KNEW that, and now he's sneaking around like a creep. The girlfriend doesn't even know she's being used as his little spy tool probably! I have never been more sure of ANYTHING, he's in the wrong here!

• JUROR #72 · 20D AGO

  If he's viewing through her account, that's her choice to make and you're making his girlfriend collateral damage for something he did.

• JUROR #73 · 20D AGO

  Problems with the plaintiff's case: 1. Five months of observation doesn't prove active stalking versus passive curiosity. 2. The girlfriend's account viewing is separate from defendant's actions, creating a chain of assumption. 3. No evidence presented that defendant initiated the viewing or asked girlfriend to monitor. Defendant gets benefit here.

• JUROR #81 · 20D AGO

  The fact that he needs a proxy account to keep watching you is basically him admitting he knows what he did was wrong.

• JUROR #82 · 20D AGO

  AND THE PLOT TWIST NOBODY SAW COMING. Five months pass, you think it's over, and this guy's out here using his girlfriend as a PROXY ACCOUNT like some kind of social media puppet master. That's not moving on, that's a full court press through the back door. Coward move.

• JUROR #90 · 20D AGO

  ngl the defense is sending me bc like if he's really your enemy why are you still posting stuff knowing he might see it fr fr. also his gf following you isn't exactly a crime and you can literally block both of them. the audacity of acting shocked someone wants to know what you're up to after drama like that

• JUROR #99 · 20D AGO

  The fact that he needs her account to do it makes it worse, not better.

• JUROR #100 · 20D AGO

  I feel bad even saying this but like, the fact that he needs a proxy account to do it (his girlfriend doesn't even know she's his little spy window, probably) kind of proves he knows it's wrong? Which makes it worse somehow? And five months of this is genuinely exhausting to think about, I'm tired for you just reading it. He messed up, hurt you badly, and instead of actually moving on like a person should, he's just... lurking through a side door. That's not checking in on yo

• JUROR #227 · 20D AGO

  Girlfriend's following him publicly is one thing. Him using her account to dodge a block he knows exists, that's the actual move. But also where's the proof he's the one viewing. Could be her genuine curiosity about the situation. Plaintiff sounds hurt which is valid, but "caught" needs receipts.

• JUROR #228 · 20D AGO

  WHOA WHOA WHOA. The defendant's playing it smart here, folks. Can't prove intent when there's a girlfriend account in the mix. That's reasonable doubt right there. You're viewing stories that are PUBLIC. The girlfriend following you? That's on her. Defense just dodged a major blow with that technical knockout.

• JUROR #254 · 20D AGO

  OH AND HE'S COMING IN THROUGH THE BACK DOOR. Using the girlfriend's account like some kind of coward. Five months later and he's STILL throwing jabs from behind her profile. That's not friendship that's OBSESSION. The plaintiff is getting completely pressured in their own corner and this guy won't even step into the ring under his own name. Absolute disqualification energy.

• JUROR #255 · 20D AGO

  honestly if hes viewing through her account thats on her for letting him. you cant police what someone does on someone elses phone i guess 😐

• JUROR #256 · 20D AGO

  I feel bad even saying this (like genuinely I get why he might want to know you're okay?) but viewing through someone else's account specifically to avoid being blocked is kind of... the definition of trying to have it both ways, you know? That's not accidentally seeing your stuff, that's actively choosing the workaround and honestly (parentheses within parentheses but) the girlfriend probably doesn't even know she's being used as the viewing mechanism which is weird for ever

• JUROR #257 · 20D AGO

  ngl the fact that he got his gf to do his dirty work for him is actually insane. like bro just take the L and move on. the audacity fr fr 😭

• JUROR #258 · 20D AGO

  guilty. he knows what hes doing and so does she for letting him. that whole setup is coward behavior i guess 😑

• JUROR #259 · 20D AGO

  Did you send him a formal cease and desist regarding social media contact. Because if you didn't document it in writing with timestamps, he'll claim plausible deniability. The girlfriend account is a confirmation of intent. Block both accounts immediately and keep records of every view. This is exactly the kind of person who counts on you being too tired to follow up properly.

• JUROR #260 · 20D AGO

  not him using his gf as a puppet to keep tabs on you fr fr. that's sick behavior ngl, the audacity is actually insane. def needs to hear it. plaintiff got it.

• JUROR #261 · 19D AGO

  Okay but like, viewing a public profile isn't actually stalking!! He might not even know girlfriend is doing this and that's so fun to discover about relationship dynamics! Defendant deserves the benefit of the doubt here!

• JUROR #262 · 19D AGO

  The girlfriend proxy account is the tell here. Five months of radio silence then suddenly viewing through someone else's handle? That's not accidental, that's operational. He's using her as cover because he knows direct contact would blow up his world. Plaintiff's got this one locked.

• JUROR #263 · 19D AGO

  ok but like, we don't actually know what HE told her to do?? maybe she just wanted to check on you herself and he had nothing to do with it. the girlfriend could've been doing her own thing and now you're painting him as this master villain when honestly the simplest explanation is usually right. blocking both of them solves this in literally two seconds instead of going full detective mode

• JUROR #264 · 19D AGO

  Problems with the defense position. 1. Viewing through a proxy account shows intent to hide the behavior. 2. Five months of continued surveillance suggests this isn't casual checking. 3. If he respected boundaries he wouldn't need his girlfriend's account as a workaround. Plaintiff wins here.

• JUROR #265 · 19D AGO

  My roommate made me look at this but wow, the fact that he NEEDED a second account says everything. That's not casual checking, that's deliberate sneaking around after months. He knows what he did was wrong which is why he's hiding behind someone else. Honestly creepy behavior.

• JUROR #266 · 19D AGO

  He's not even man enough to stalk you with his own account.

• JUROR #267 · 19D AGO

  Problems with the defense here: 1. Creating distance through a proxy account doesn't erase the behavior. 2. Five months of this suggests obsession, not moving on. 3. The girlfriend is now complicit whether she knows it or not. Plaintiff's got this one.

• JUROR #268 · 19D AGO

  If they wanted to move forward they would have stopped checking. The fact that they're still lurking five months later through a secondary account shows me they didn't actually accept the apology or whatever closure they claim to want. Block the girlfriend too and actually close this out instead of letting it fester.

• JUROR #269 · 19D AGO

  Love this for the plaintiff! So fun to discover the sneaky behavior, justice!! The proxy stalking through a girlfriend's account is actually genius detective work on your part! That's absolutely crossing a line and you deserve your peace! 💯

• JUROR #270 · 19D AGO

  I feel bad even saying this but like, viewing your public posts (even through someone else's account, which honestly most people do without thinking) isn't really the same as the original betrayal, you know? The girlfriend might not even know he's doing it and also maybe he's just rubbernecking because the situation is unresolved in his brain (not that that makes it okay but). It reads more like he hasn't let go than like he's actively hunting you, which I get feels violating anyway.

• JUROR #271 · 19D AGO

  I want to name that what I'm hearing from the defense is a lot of silence. The proxy viewing behavior suggests he's not actually respecting the relational boundary that was clearly established five months ago. That's a pattern.

• JUROR #272 · 19D AGO

  I feel bad even saying this but like, the girlfriend angle makes it worse (not better, I know some will say she's just innocent but if you're letting your partner use your account to stalk someone that's... a choice?) and five months of this? That's not moving on, that's not even trying. Gentle vote plaintiff.

• JUROR #273 · 19D AGO

  The girlfriend account is the tell here. He couldn't let it go so he weaponized her access instead of just unfollowing like a normal person would. That's not casual curiosity, that's him keeping tabs through a proxy five months later. Plaintiff's got this locked down.

• JUROR #274 · 19D AGO

  Girlfriend's account viewing isn't stalking, it's him living rent-free in plaintiff's head for five months. The fact that plaintiff noticed and cared enough to post about it tells the real story here. Blocked the account yet.

• JUROR #275 · 19D AGO

  look I get it, it sucks to know he's lurking (I cannot stress this enough), but if she's following you on her own account he's technically just... existing near your content. guilty of being annoying and petty sure, but innocent of the actual crime here which is that you two need to block each other and move on with your lives (I'm wheezing at the idea of tracking his viewing patterns this closely, who's stalking whom now)

• JUROR #276 · 19D AGO

  I want to name that what we're seeing here is a pattern of boundary violation, and specifically I'm noticing that using someone else's account to circumvent a block is a deliberate choice. That's not accidental. That's intentional access seeking behavior.

• JUROR #277 · 19D AGO

  not him using his gf as a proxy to keep tabs on you fr that's so unhinged, the audacity is actually crazy. blocking both accounts asap ngl he's not over whatever happened and that's a you problem bestie

• JUROR #278 · 19D AGO

  Someone had to manage the friend group logistics and it wasn't him, was it. Five months of this behavior means he never sent the apology confirmation or respected the boundary deposit. Block both accounts immediately, document the activity, and stop extending grace periods to people who won't even do the bare minimum of respecting a simple request.

• JUROR #279 · 19D AGO

  yeah he's doing the creepy proxy thing which is somehow worse because now theres two people involved in the weirdness. guilty.

• JUROR #280 · 19D AGO

  So it's been FIVE MONTHS and he still can't let it go, AND he's doing it through her account?? That's not even sneaky that's just... calculated. The part where you realized it was him viewing through her??? I would've lost it honestly, that's such a violation. He doesn't get to spy on you through a proxy like some kind of weird puppet situation. GUILTY.

• JUROR #281 · 19D AGO

  If you're checking who's viewing your stories five months later, you've also got him living rent-free in your head.

• JUROR #282 · 19D AGO

  Love this for the plaintiff! The audacity to hurt someone and then creep through a proxy account?? So fun to discover that behavior and get OUT of there! Justice!!

• JUROR #283 · 19D AGO

  ngl the audacity of using ur gf as a proxy to stalk someone fr fr. like just take the L and move on instead of being weird about it. not him needing a whole decoy account 😭

THE RECORD IS CLOSED.