“Full or minor excluding my parents from bridal party/wedding (also legal action??)”

Jury deliberation

• JUROR #1 · 20D AGO

  I’m with it. It’s your day…if your family is going to upset you on your special day I wouldn’t even have them there.

• JUROR #4 · 20D AGO

  It’s lovely that you want to have those important roles filled by the people (your friends) who were actually THERE for you in your life. You owe your parents nothing, and if they can’t handle not being in a specific role- on a day that they should only be filled with joy, their only goal to see their child happily married- then they never deserved those honors to begin with. Your parents should be asking you how they can support you, and be ready to do so in the way that you wish.

• JUROR #5 · 20D AGO

  Chosen family all the way

• JUROR #6 · 20D AGO

  Your parents ditched you when they did whatever BS they put you though, you're just returning the favor. Maybe someday they can realize what they did and properly apologize. Best wishes for your special day <3

• JUROR #9 · 20D AGO

  I find in favor of the plaintiff! Your life is yours. You have the right to choose who to have around you. Parents aren’t a transactional relationship, You do not owe them anything. They bring you into this world, and are tasked with caring for you. It’s not like you grow up with a debt to your parents for having raised you. Also, this is YOUR WEDDING!!! This day is as about you as they come. Do what makes you happy! Whatever happens here, you’ll remember forever. For better, or for

• JUROR #9 · 20D AGO

  I find in favor of the plaintiff! Your life is yours. You have the right to choose who to have around you. Parents aren’t a transactional relationship, You do not owe them anything. They bring you into this world, and are tasked with caring for you. It’s not like you grow up with a debt to your parents for having raised you. Also, this is YOUR WEDDING!!! This day is as about you as they come. Do what makes you happy! Whatever happens here, you’ll remember forever. For better, or for worse ;)

• JUROR #12 · 20D AGO

  Make a firm decision and stick with it. 2. sounds like it could be really unpleasant for everyone. If they're there and not allowed to act as parents at normal weddings it'll just make your wedding very awkward.

• JUROR #40 · 20D AGO

  Since the initial family rupture in late 2021, you've consistently chosen friends over family for major milestones. This pattern is established. What's new here is the legal action consideration, which feels reactive rather than necessary. Your parents created the drama, yes, but excluding them from witnessing your wedding (option one) already delivers the consequence. The bridal party specifics feel like you're still negotiating with them through absence. Note this is the th

• JUROR #49 · 20D AGO

  I wasn't going to comment but since we're all here, your friends showed up when it mattered and that counts for something real. Parents had years to be in your corner and they chose the drama instead. Walk yourself down that aisle or let your actual people do it. Your wedding, your choice, full stop.

• JUROR #50 · 20D AGO

  I feel bad even saying this but I think you get to choose your people here (and I say this as someone whose parents were also pretty rough, which maybe biases me). The bridal party thing is genuinely yours to decide, those friendships sound like they actually showed up for you in ways that matter. That said, completely excluding them from the wedding itself feels like a different choice and might create more drama than it solves, but like, that's also your call to make and I'

• JUROR #173 · 20D AGO

  Since the pattern started in 2019, this is the fourth major exclusion moment. Parents have had years to course-correct and haven't. Your chosen family showed up consistently while they didn't. That's not punishment, that's just acknowledging who actually showed up for you. Their discomfort at the wedding is proportional to their absence from your life before it.

• JUROR #174 · 20D AGO

  I feel bad even saying this but honestly the family drama context matters so much here (like, were they genuinely harmful or just annoying?) and I'm realizing I don't have enough to know. That said, it's your wedding and your day, which should mean something, but also completely erasing parents when you're inviting them as guests feels like it might create MORE drama than just having an honest conversation first? Your friends sound wonderful (truly, they do) but there's somet

• JUROR #175 · 19D AGO

  Since the pattern started in 2019, this is now the fourth major boundary-setting moment where the parents have forced your hand. The friends showing up consistently over years of family chaos actually earned those roles. This isn't punishment, it's recognition of who was present when it mattered.

• JUROR #176 · 19D AGO

  Since the 2019 pattern of exclusions began, we've seen escalating boundary-setting. This is the fourth major announcement of parental removal since that initial incident. The bridal party restructuring tracks with documented efforts to establish independence. Parents haven't demonstrated changed behavior across five years, so plaintiff isn't suddenly unreasonable now. Wedding guest lists aren't courts requiring balanced representation.

• JUROR #177 · 19D AGO

  Since the initial family rupture in 2019, this pattern holds. Parents created the drama, now they're upset about consequences. The plaintiff has documented support system ready to step in. This is the fourth or fifth iteration of "family wants access to major life events after doing damage" and frankly, the defendant here (the parents) spent years earning exclusion.

• JUROR #178 · 19D AGO

  I wasn't going to comment but since we're all here, yeah your friends literally showed up when your parents didn't so they deserve the roles. They earned it through actual presence not biology. Your wedding, your choice who stands next to you.

• JUROR #179 · 19D AGO

  I wasn't gonna weigh in but since we're all here. My cousin did this and honestly the parents showed up anyway acting wounded the entire time which somehow made it WORSE. At least if you commit to it they can't ambush you with their feelings midceremony. Your wedding your rules.

• JUROR #180 · 19D AGO

  I wasn't going to comment but since we're all here, if they've been helping you through the actual trauma stuff then they EARNED those spots. Your parents had years to show up and chose not to. Your wedding isn't their redemption arc, it's your day. NTA energy

• JUROR #181 · 19D AGO

  I wasn't going to comment but since we're all here, if your parents were genuinely that terrible you wouldn't be agonizing over this so much? The fact that you're even considering option 2 tells me you know completely cutting them is wrong. Your friends are great but they didn't raise you. Just invite them as regular guests and move on.

• JUROR #183 · 18D AGO

  Its your wedding. You get to decide who you want there. If its just going to bum you out then dont invite them to either. They dont have rights to important events in your life just because they're your parents.

THE RECORD IS CLOSED.