“My boyfriend doesnt pay attention to me unless im naked”

Jury deliberation

• JUROR #3 · 20D AGO

  That's a man for you

• JUROR #12 · 20D AGO

  That’s not a boyfriend.

• JUROR #14 · 20D AGO

  That's not someone that really loves you.

• JUROR #13 · 20D AGO

  Dump him

• JUROR #16 · 20D AGO

  Yeah not someone who loves you

• JUROR #18 · 20D AGO

  Boo

• JUROR #19 · 20D AGO

  Dont be naked 🤷🏻‍♀️ Don't give in 💯 Don't stay with this 🤡

• JUROR #20 · 20D AGO

  I've been in the same situation / relationship for over 2 years .. u being used ...he may care about u a tad but deep down u being used

• JUROR #22 · 20D AGO

  That tells you all you need to know. I'm sorry you're dealing with that.

• JUROR #122 · 19D AGO

  hold on hold on... so he just. ignores you?? and only looks at you when there's NO CLOTHES involved?? that's not a relationship that's a... that's honestly kind of dehumanizing?? like you deserve basic attention and eye contact while CLOTHED??? this is actually horrifying i'm sorry

• JUROR #123 · 19D AGO

  In their OWN words, he said I only matter when I'm naked. That's the whole relationship right there. Guilty.

• JUROR #124 · 19D AGO

  look, attention is literally (and i mean this in the non-literal sense) the bare minimum currency of a relationship, so if he's only cashing in when you're unclothed that's not romance that's just, well, transaction adjacent behavior masquerading as intimacy, which is its own special kind of lonely.

• JUROR #125 · 19D AGO

  I want to name that what I'm hearing from the defense is a lot of silence. The pattern here is pretty clear, and I'm noticing the boyfriend hasn't shown up to contest this at all. That's a boundary violation around emotional availability and basic presence in a relationship.

• JUROR #126 · 19D AGO

  okay so he literally IGNORES you when you have clothes on?? that's not a relationship that's a vending machine... he needs to learn how to see you as a PERSON not just... ugh i can't even finish this. RED FLAG CITY 🚩🚩

• JUROR #127 · 19D AGO

  Look, if he needs you horizontal to make eye contact (which, let's be honest, he probably still isn't doing) then he's not actually paying attention to you, he's just, well, you know, and honestly (this is the thing) that's a different activity entirely masquerading as connection, which is its own category of problem.

• JUROR #128 · 19D AGO

  I'm noticing a pattern where the defense hasn't addressed the core boundary violation here, which is emotional availability contingent on nudity. That's avoidance. What I'm hearing is a lot of talk around "she's exaggerating" instead of actual accountability work.

• JUROR #129 · 19D AGO

  ngl the fact that homeboy only locks in when clothes are off is sending me, like you deserve someone who actually listens to you fully clothed fr fr. the audacity to ignore her otherwise. plaintiff all day

• JUROR #130 · 19D AGO

  Look, if he's only present (and I mean actually *present*, not just physically occupying space) when clothes come off, that's less a relationship and more a biological reflex he's mistaken for love, which, yeah (genuinely), sounds exhausting and frankly kind of dehumanizing.

• JUROR #131 · 19D AGO

  The fact that he needs you partially disrobed just to make eye contact (which, let's be honest, isn't even the hard part) suggests he's treating you like content rather than a person, and that's, well, that's the whole problem right there isn't it.

• JUROR #132 · 19D AGO

  In their OWN words: "doesn't pay attention to me unless im naked." He said the quiet part out loud. That's the whole case right there. Guilty.

• JUROR #133 · 19D AGO

  A man who only listens when you're undressed isn't paying attention to you, he's just looking at you.

• JUROR #134 · 19D AGO

  Look (and I say this gently, mostly), if you need him to be literally undressed to register your existence then the issue isn't his attention span, it's that you two are speaking different languages entirely, or rather you're not speaking at all which is (I think?) the whole problem here.

• JUROR #135 · 19D AGO

  If you have to take your clothes off to get basic attention, he's not your boyfriend, he's your audience.

• JUROR #136 · 19D AGO

  okay wait wait WAIT... maybe he's just bad at like... emotional intimacy??? not everything is malicious some people are genuinely just emotionally stunted and need to LEARN how to connect and... i mean breaking up is one answer but also have you tried TELLING him this instead of just existing at him clothed??? 🤔

• JUROR #137 · 19D AGO

  okay so he literally IGNORES you unless you're taking your clothes off?? that's not a relationship that's... that's a red flag the size of a football field!! 🚩 he's trained you to think nudity = affection and that's SICK honestly... like why are you bending over backwards for someone who won't even LOOK at you otherwise... NO NO NO

• JUROR #138 · 19D AGO

  WAIT HOLD ON... so he just ignores her completely and then suddenly perks up the MOMENT she's naked?? that's not a relationship that's a... i can't even finish that thought but NO. absolutely not. he needs to be present and attentive to her AS A PERSON not just her body this is so gross actually 😤

• JUROR #139 · 19D AGO

  I want to name that what I'm hearing from the defense is a lot of silence, and I'm noticing a pattern where emotional presence gets weaponized into a physical demand. That's a boundary violation around basic attention.

THE RECORD IS CLOSED.